After working a very long week I had decided to take a couple of days of to take care of what really matters–> me and my household 👪. Throughout that long week I had been taking mental notes on what needed to be done when I was off. I really thought I had this life thing in the bag- Clean the home to my satisfaction, spend some quality time with my son and Hubby, catch up on some TV shows, Blog a whole bunch (like write 3 novels), grow my edges, get a 6 pack and just live my best life (in 4 days).
Well, My first off day ended up being a total disaster because I was overwhelmed with all of what I had to do. In typical Husband fashion, mine asked me to get ready in 10 minutes because he wanted us to go somewhere, and every 10 minutes for about an hour he kept asking me if I was ready yet. Again in typical wife fashion, I could be exaggerating because he may have told me the previous night but not to worry he is still the bad guy because this is my blog and I get to dictate who the good and bad guys are 🤣. Anyway I went to my closet to get dressed and had a serious mental breakdown, I know I joked about it on IG (where we should be friends right?) but it was real y’all. In a short period of time I went through a series of emotions that made me feel like I was racing at 100 miles per hour. I changed into 5-10 different outfits and hated every single one of them. I then started with the negative self talk and was my worst critic in that moment, not one of my proudest moments but it taught me something about myself.
I gained about 2.8 lbs and some change (like 10 more change lol, but who’s counting) my six-pack of abs actually turned into a six-pack of burritos (don’t even laugh, that’s body shaming) and I hadn’t really been taking care of my mind, body and soul as well as I should. See when you are so busy taking care of everything else around you BUT yourself, you put your wellbeing at risk.
MIND: When you become unmindful about what goes on in your mind, you leave it defenseless. Mindfulness should be like vitamins for a healthy and happy you. Read a book, take a craft class on YouTube, listen to an inspirational podcast, watch an episode of your fav show, basically just do whatever rejuvenates, revives and restores you.
BODY: Exercise, eat right, drink Ho2, and have enough rest. Here’s where I am struggling as I learn to balance my work life and burrito life, but I am getting there y’all.
SOUL: Pray, meditate, or do whatever it takes to center yourself.
Finally tying down my thoughts to the title, I had a mental breakdown because I took my energy from DOING FOR OTHERS. I thought that the more I did for others meant more validation on my end, but boy did that leave me empty. That little cliché saying about pouring from an empty glass resonated with me. My new motto is to really implement a lot of self-care and mindfulness in my life.
Like always, I thank you for reading ❤. Share with me friend, what fuels your fire?
Outfit deets: Bag and Shirt dress – TJmaxx
Shoes: Oxfords- Can’t remember
Hat: Maybe I stole it, cause I genuinely can’t remember either
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